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Kim Kardashian West is a popular culture phenomenon, prostate whether you’d like to admit it or not. Up until earlier this month, hospital cameras followed Kim’s every step. The biggest names in fashion are queueing up to work with her. She has a legion of dedicated fans who support her multi-million dollar empire by religiously paying for app subscriptions, cialis 40mg KIMOJI merchandise and selfie books. Kim works to raise awareness around important issues such as Armenian genocide, and gun control. She donates generously to a number of charitable causes, and was praised for doing so at Variety’s ‘Power of Women’ event last year. 

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Most of us will be aware by now that Kim was recently robbed at gunpoint in her apartment in Paris. Thankfully, she was unharmed, but the incident has raised a lot of questions about the extent to which Kim has opened herself up to such awful attacks. Comments on social media were varied- some people were compassionate, others (mostly men) didn’t think the burglars had gone far enough. They wished Kim had been raped and mutilated.

Surprisingly, the most shocking reaction for me came from Vanessa de Largie (an Australian self-proclaimed ‘feminist’ and sex columnist). After news of Kim’s ordeal broke out, Vanessa penned an article for The Daily Telegraph titled ‘I wanted Kim Kardashian to die’.

Personally, I don’t have an issue with Kim Kardashian West. I’ve watched her reality show for years, although I’ve never considered her lifestyle to be one that I’d actively try to emulate myself. I think she’s got a good sense of humour, and I’m happy to see her comfortable in her own skin. My phone wallpaper is collage of her many ‘crying faces’. They’re brilliant.

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I’m happy to listen objectively to any fair criticism. But I found Vanessa’s article to be mean-spirited, and completely baseless. Vanessa slates Kim for being “vapid” and having “nothing to offer to the world”. Her article talks about how concerned she is that young girls look up to Kim. Vanessa is disappointed that Kim has more online followers than Nelson Mandela. Crikey. She seems to have forgotten that Mandela passed away nearly three years ago. Vanessa has an issue with society putting KKW in the same bracket as her personal feminist icon Germaine Greer (who, FYI, also posed nude once upon a time).

It would be wrong of me to dismiss Vanessa’s comments as pure jealousy, although I think it’s important to recognise that envy does play a part in how some have reacted to Kim’s incident. Let’s face it, the majority of us would happily take a healthy pay check in return for looking good and doing very little ‘work’. Many people hate Kim simply because she seemingly does nothing. It’s hard for people to accept that a woman can lead such an opulent lifestyle without having to slave away for 40+ hours a week in an office job she despises. People with this mentality don’t care that Kim’s personal belongings were taken in such a violent way. After all, she probably deserved it for being so damn rich!

But if everybody could build an empire like Kim’s, we’d all be doing it. Nobody wants to commend Kim for her business acumen, which I think is disheartening to see. I don’t think she’s teaching young girls that they must walk around naked and pump themselves with Botox and fillers to be successful. If that’s really all you can take from Kim’s story, then you’re probably more shallow than you’d like to admit.

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Young girls all over the world literally kill themselves every day when they’ve fallen victim to revenge porn at the hands of somebody they once trusted. But Kim has shown young women that you don’t need to let such awful events define you. You’re able to shake it off, work hard and achieve anything you put your mind to.

My issue with the feminist movement is that we’re constantly trying to figure out what a feminist ‘looks’ like. Kim can’t be a feminist, because she’s naked all the time. A stay-at-home mum can’t be a feminist, because she’s allowing her husband to provide for the family. This is becoming tedious, and I’m not surprised that many women don’t like to label themselves as ‘feminists’ in fear of the backlash they’ll receive.

For me, feminism is not some exclusive club reserved for conservative white women who only started to see Donald Trump as a problem when he talked about sexually assaulting other white women. The movement needs to be completely intersectional. It needs to be about ALL women having the right to do whatever the heck they want to do. If they want to be naked, they can do that. If they want to stay at home and look after their children, why is that a bad thing? It’s dangerous for us to measure feminism depending on how much of her body a woman chooses to show. By doing that, we’re taking away a woman’s agency over her own body. And that is completely anti-feminist.

If Kim’s nude pictures bother you, then don’t look. Honestly, try it. It’s a lot easier to do than you think. We shouldn’t have to bear in mind that Kim is a wife and mother before we can empathise with her situation. At the end of the day, she’s a human being. Most reasonable people wouldn’t wish this ordeal on anybody, so let’s not lose all of our humanity and empathy just because this happened to Kim Kardashian West.

Written by Olamide Agboola
Kim Kardashian West is a popular culture phenomenon, purchase whether you’d like to admit it or not. Up until earlier this month, and cameras followed Kim’s every step. The biggest names in fashion are queueing up to work with her. She has a legion of dedicated fans who support her multi-million dollar empire by religiously paying for app subscriptions, KIMOJI merchandise and selfie books. Kim works to raise awareness around important issues such as Armenian genocide, and gun control. She donates generously to a number of charitable causes, and was praised for doing so at Variety’s ‘Power of Women’ event last year. 

kim_kardashian_variety_women_in_power

Most of us will be aware by now that Kim was recently robbed at gunpoint in her apartment in Paris. Thankfully, she was unharmed, but the incident has raised a lot of questions about the extent to which Kim has opened herself up to such awful attacks. Comments on social media were varied- some people were compassionate, others (mostly men) didn’t think the burglars had gone far enough. They wished Kim had been raped and mutilated.

Surprisingly, the most shocking reaction for me came from Vanessa de Largie (an Australian self-proclaimed ‘feminist’ and sex columnist). After news of Kim’s ordeal broke out, Vanessa penned an article for The Daily Telegraph titled ‘I wanted Kim Kardashian to die’.

Personally, I don’t have an issue with Kim Kardashian West. I’ve watched her reality show for years, although I’ve never considered her lifestyle to be one that I’d actively try to emulate myself. I think she’s got a good sense of humour, and I’m happy to see her comfortable in her own skin. My phone wallpaper is collage of her many ‘crying faces’. They’re brilliant.

screen696x696

I’m happy to listen objectively to any fair criticism. But I found Vanessa’s article to be mean-spirited, and completely baseless. Vanessa slates Kim for being “vapid” and having “nothing to offer to the world”. Her article talks about how concerned she is that young girls look up to Kim. Vanessa is disappointed that Kim has more online followers than Nelson Mandela. Crikey. She seems to have forgotten that Mandela passed away nearly three years ago. Vanessa has an issue with society putting KKW in the same bracket as her personal feminist icon Germaine Greer (who, FYI, also posed nude once upon a time).

It would be wrong of me to dismiss Vanessa’s comments as pure jealousy, although I think it’s important to recognise that envy does play a part in how some have reacted to Kim’s incident. Let’s face it, the majority of us would happily take a healthy pay check in return for looking good and doing very little ‘work’. Many people hate Kim simply because she seemingly does nothing. It’s hard for people to accept that a woman can lead such an opulent lifestyle without having to slave away for 40+ hours a week in an office job she despises. People with this mentality don’t care that Kim’s personal belongings were taken in such a violent way. After all, she probably deserved it for being so damn rich!

But if everybody could build an empire like Kim’s, we’d all be doing it. Nobody wants to commend Kim for her business acumen, which I think is disheartening to see. I don’t think she’s teaching young girls that they must walk around naked and pump themselves with Botox and fillers to be successful. If that’s really all you can take from Kim’s story, then you’re probably more shallow than you’d like to admit.

kim

Young girls all over the world literally kill themselves every day when they’ve fallen victim to revenge porn at the hands of somebody they once trusted. But Kim has shown young women that you don’t need to let such awful events define you. You’re able to shake it off, work hard and achieve anything you put your mind to.

My issue with the feminist movement is that we’re constantly trying to figure out what a feminist ‘looks’ like. Kim can’t be a feminist, because she’s naked all the time. A stay-at-home mum can’t be a feminist, because she’s allowing her husband to provide for the family. This is becoming tedious, and I’m not surprised that many women don’t like to label themselves as ‘feminists’ in fear of the backlash they’ll receive.

For me, feminism is not some exclusive club reserved for conservative white women who only started to see Donald Trump as a problem when he talked about sexually assaulting other white women. The movement needs to be completely intersectional. It needs to be about ALL women having the right to do whatever the heck they want to do. If they want to be naked, they can do that. If they want to stay at home and look after their children, why is that a bad thing? It’s dangerous for us to measure feminism depending on how much of her body a woman chooses to show. By doing that, we’re taking away a woman’s agency over her own body. And that is completely anti-feminist.

If Kim’s nude pictures bother you, then don’t look. Honestly, try it. It’s a lot easier to do than you think. We shouldn’t have to bear in mind that Kim is a wife and mother before we can empathise with her situation. At the end of the day, she’s a human being. Most reasonable people wouldn’t wish this ordeal on anybody, so let’s not lose all of our humanity and empathy just because this happened to Kim Kardashian West.

Written by Olamide Agboola

Instagram has become a daily part of most peoples routines, medicine used to share glimmers of our lives to our followers. We may choose to upload our best holiday snaps or a ‘Dubsmash’ but we can also use it to share how we are feeling or in need of some care and support. Today Instagram made a subtle but very vital change to its app;  if you see a friend post something that appears to be a cry for help you can alert Instagram anonymously.

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If you see someone post about self-harm or depression, more about you can report it and they will receive a message saying “someone saw one of your posts and thinks you might be going through a difficult time. If you need support, we’d like to help.” Three different options will then come up; talk to a friend, contact a local helpline or receive some mental health advice and support. The same goes if a user searches for a hashtag associated with self harm. Instagram worked with an array of organisations including National Eating Disorder Association and National Suicide Prevention to ensure the feature and options were appropriate.

It is so easy to forgo the “social” aspect of social media and forget that it is another human being on the other end of an account so this new update rolling out today has been welcomed with open arms. If you see anyone you follow post something worrying, you now have a way of showing them your concern without being confrontational.

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